They were ready to end their marriage of 14 years. For some time. . . years actually. . . neither had been happy. There had been attempts to change, but things always fell apart. It had been years since either Kelly or Greg felt good about their relationship.
Threats and yelling were an almost everyday thing. They both desperately wanted to be accepted and loved, but neither felt it. The more each tried, it seemed the further they moved apart. They had tried therapy, self-help books, seminars. But nothing seemed to make a difference.
It seemed as if they were stuck in a vicious cycle. They knew they needed to change things in their relationship…but they just didn’t know how.
I’m not going to try and convince you that I was able to undo years of fighting, struggling and disappointment in a day. But, with what they learned in my office that day, they decided to put their impending divorce "on hold."
Last week, Kelly called to invite me to their anniversary and "re-commitment" ceremony!
They receive their training in traditional, individual therapy, and add marital counseling to their practice… after the fact.
And, when they do offer marital counseling, they are, usually, applying outdated, ineffective strategies that were never intended to help truly troubled marriages.
This is why the best marriage counselors see a success rate of only 20%. . . if a medical procedure was that risky. . . it would be outlawed!
I know from experience, because I too was frustrated with such a low rate of success. I sincerely desired to help my clients to save their marriages. But, the techniques and strategies I learned in school seemed to be making things worse!
Once I realized that "traditional" methods of marriage therapy don’t work, I determined to find and create strategies, techniques and methods that do work.
It led me to abandon much of the "old school" ideas about how to help troubled couples…and so should you!
Before you can begin your journey toward saving your marriage, you need to stop buying into The Four Most Damaging Myths About Saving Your Marriage.
The 4 Most Damaging Myths About Saving Your Marriage…
Teaching you how to communicate better, if your marriage is truly troubled, will only give you and your spouse the ability to fight more effectively!
In many cases, improving "communication skills" only creates more damage and accelerates the deterioration of the relationship.
What is helpful at one stage can be destructive, or at least counterproductive, at another stage. I have created a unique path for each stage that resolves the crisis best.
You will learn how to determine exactly which stage of marriage crisis you are facing. After you do this, you are infinitely better prepared to move forward and begin the healing and progress.
When a marriage crisis is in full swing, it sometimes takes awhile for the other spouse to respond. But, this does not mean that you can’t save your marriage!
You will learn how to use the negative energy in your relationship to turn your relationship around.
In my experience, many people procrastinate and hope that things will get "just work themselves out."
This rarely, if ever, happens. You already know that! That is the reason you are at this site. You are ready to take action!
If you do not take action, the negative momentum of the relationship moves against you and before you know it, the relationship is… Read more…